Positive self-talk allows you to recognize, validate, and apply your full potential to all that you are, and do. Also called affirmations (to make something firm), positive self-talk serves as your personal accomplishment scale.
Below are some tips for positive self-talk:
Use the present tense; deal with what exists today.
Be positive – rather than affirming what you don’t want.
Remain personal; self-talk must relate to you and you only.
Keep sentences short and simple.
Go with your gut. If it “clicks”, then just say it. Self-talk should feel positive, expanding, freeing, and supporting.
Focus on new things, rather than changing what is.
Act “as if”; permit yourself to believe the idea is true right now.
If self-talk is new to you, it is a good idea to first think about the things that are wonderful about you, such as:
I have someone I love, and we enjoy spending time together
I am a mother or father, fulfilled in this role
My career is challenging and fulfilling.
When I learn something new, I feel proud.
I am worthwhile because I breathe and feel; I am aware.
When I feel pain, I love, I try to survive. I am a good person.
Identifying and Addressing Strengths and Weaknesses Exercise
Create a list of words and phrases of self-attributes (describing yourself).
Then decide whether they are strengths or weaknesses/positives or negatives.
Re-frame weaknesses/negatives into a message that does not create a negative self-worth and low self-esteem.